Why you shouldn’t let go first when hugging your child

Hugging your child is a beautiful way to show love and affection. But I’ve been doing some research into hugging recently, and did you know that letting go first can have a significant impact on their emotional well-being? Here’s why experts say you should hold on a little longer:

  1. Security and Trust: By holding on, you create a sense of security and trust for your child. It reassures them that you are there for them and that they can rely on you.Security and trust are crucial aspects of a child’s emotional development, and parents play a vital role in nurturing these qualities.
  • Consistency in parenting practices, routines, and boundaries helps children feel secure. When parents consistently meet their child’s needs and provide a stable environment, it builds trust and a sense of security.
  • When parents respond promptly and attentively to their children’s cues, such as hugging them when they’re upset or meeting their basic needs, it creates a sense of trust. This responsiveness communicates to the child that their needs are important and will be met.
  • Parents who are emotionally available and attuned to their child’s emotions create a secure attachment. This involves actively listening, validating their feelings, and providing comfort and support when needed.
  • Unconditional Love and Acceptance: Children need to feel loved and accepted for who they are, regardless of their behaviour or mistakes. Parents who consistently show unconditional love and acceptance create a secure base from which the child can explore the world and develop a positive self-image.
  • Parents who model trustworthiness in their relationships with others, including their partner, friends, and family, teach their children the importance of trust. Seeing their parents maintain healthy and trustworthy connections helps children develop trust in their own relationships.

2. Emotional Connection: Hugs are not just physical; they are a powerful way to connect emotionally. When you hold on, you deepen the emotional bond between you and your child, fostering a stronger relationship.

3.  Self-Worth and Confidence: Holding on during a hug sends a message to your child that they are valued and loved. It boosts their self-worth and confidence, which is crucial for their overall development.

  • Hugs contribute to self-worth and confidence in our children by providing validation and acceptance, offering emotional support, nurturing connection and belonging, releasing feel-good hormones, facilitating non-verbal communication, and promoting body positivity. So, embrace the power of hugs to enhance your self-worth and confidence, both in yourself and in your relationships with others.
  • Hugs provide a physical expression of validation and acceptance. When our child embraces us in a hug, it communicates that we are valued and accepted for who we are. This feeling of being accepted and loved unconditionally boosts our self-worth and confidence.
  • Hugs create a safe space where we can express our emotions and seek solace. When we receive a hug during challenging times, it reinforces the idea that we are not alone and that our feelings are valid.

4. Stress Relief: Hugs have a calming effect on both children and adults. By holding on, you provide a safe space for your child to release any stress or anxiety they may be feeling. Hugs have a powerful impact on stress relief by promoting the release of oxytocin, reducing cortisol levels, calming the nervous system, providing a sense of security, fostering emotional connection, and encouraging mindfulness. So, the next time you’re feeling stressed, don’t hesitate to reach out for a warm and comforting hug.

Remember, a hug is not just a quick gesture; it’s an opportunity to nurture your child’s emotional well-being. So next time you embrace your little one, hold on a little longer and let them feel your unwavering love and support. There’s also the advantage that you’ll both be savouring the moment or moments and will both remember these hugs for years to come!

Happy Hugging